Introduction
Letting go! Two simple words, yet a deeply complex process. For the longest time, people thought letting go meant erasing memories, moving on quickly, or pretending they weren't affected. But the more one resisted their pain, the more it lingered. That’s where Nick Trenton’s book How to Let Go comes into play, which gently reframes everything about healing.
The Emotional Baggage We All Carry
We all hold on to something, be it past mistakes, people who hurt us, or expectations we couldn’t meet. It is like a mix of guilt and the need to control outcomes. We often keep replaying situations to make sense of them or to avoid making the same mistake again. But as Trenton wisely points out, overanalyzing isn't clarity, but it’s a trap. His book reminds us that healing starts not with answers, but with acceptance. He writes about how unprocessed emotions like anger, shame, and anxiety build up like clutter in our minds. They shape our daily thoughts, our decisions, and even our self-worth. And unless we begin to release them, we can’t truly make space for peace.
Rewriting the Thought Patterns
What struck in Trenton’s approach is the role our thoughts play in keeping us stuck. We often found ourselves caught in “what-if” spirals, creating hypothetical scenarios or beating ourselves up for things long gone. The book calls this out: our brains are meaning-making machines, but they often get it wrong. Trenton introduces practical ways to recognize and gently challenge distorted thinking. He encourages readers to become an observer of their own thoughts, rather than being ruled by them. We should start noticing whenever we are catastrophizing or personalizing things unnecessarily, and slowly, pause, breathe, and let the thought pass without acting on it.
Understanding Triggers with Curiosity, Not Judgment
Something deeply appreciating about the book is its approach to emotional triggers. We all have those moments when something small sets off a storm inside us. Trenton says these are messages from our unresolved wounds. Instead of reacting impulsively or feeling ashamed, we’re invited to ask: Why does this hurt? And What need isn’t being met? We might have noticed that certain criticisms, even mild ones, would unsettle us. Reading How to Let Go can help us connect that reaction to a deeper fear of inadequacy. Once we see that clearly, we could work with it, not against it.
Forgiveness as a Gift to Yourself
Forgiveness is something you give yourself. For years, forgiveness is equated with weakness, or worse, i.e., permission. But Trenton reframes it entirely. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It simply means you’re ready to stop letting it hurt you over and over again. When we began to forgive not just others, but also parts of ourselves, the version of us that didn’t know better, or that made decisions from fear. That was perhaps the most freeing part of my healing.
Grounding in the Present
The final takeaway from Trenton’s book and something we should try to remind ourselves every day is to return to the present. Letting go isn’t just about the past. It’s also about resisting the urge to live in imagined futures. The present is where healing happens, where joy lives. Mindfulness doesn’t have to be sitting cross-legged with eyes closed. Sometimes, it's as simple as feeling the warmth of sunlight on your face, or noticing how your breath slows when you’re kind to yourself.
Conclusion
How to Let Go by Nick Trenton isn’t a miracle cure, and it doesn’t pretend to be. It’s a compassionate, realistic guide that aligns so well with what many of us are quietly yearning for relief, release, and a return to ourselves. Letting go is now a daily practice, not a one-time event.










